Dear GhanaWeb,

I first met my husband when I was 23 years old. We met at a nightclub, where I went alone, but he was with his friend. He approached me, and as we were talking, he invited his friend over.

Our conversation centered on sex, which led to us discussing a "threesome," which neither of us had ever participated in. I had a wild youth, and as adventurous as I was, I agreed when one of his friends proposed that we try it.

It was one of the most unforgettable nights of my life, but I never wanted to try it again.

We never saw each other after that day, and no contact was exchanged, so the ghosting wasn't deliberate. I turned over a new leaf when I was 25, and three years later, I met my husband.

He looked familiar, but I forgot where I had once seen his face. We dated and got married, and I remembered where I met my husband when we were making love on our first night as a married couple.

As I said, the threesome I had was one of the most unforgettable nights of my life, so I remembered every detail, and I was able to recognise my husband from the tattoo he has on his back.

I brought the issue up to see if it would evoke some remembrance, and he truly remembered, but was still clueless that I was the lady he engaged in that with. He made a comment that made me have second thoughts about opening up to him.

My husband spoke ill of the lady and said, "I feel sorry for the man who will marry such a whore."

His words struck me so hard that I'm scared to let the cat out of the bag. What's the best decision to make? Should I go ahead and tell him, or should I keep the secret?