Dear GhanaWeb,

I’m a 25-year-old woman who has no one to call a family. I lost my parents when I was 16 years. I broke my virginity at the age of 17. I was having sex with men for survival. I’m currently pregnant but I don’t want to terminate it because this is my fifth time getting pregnant from last year to date.

I’ve terminated the other four and I’m now worried for my health and safety. All the pregnancies I’ve aborted in the past one year belonged to different men and post pill always fails me. I don’t know why and that’s why I’m now scared.

I took my first post-pill when I was 18, and from then on, I relied on it as my main form of protection. It wasn’t until last year that I found out it’s not meant to be taken multiple times a year. Before that, I was using it as often as eight times in a single month. Now I can’t help but wonder, did that overuse make it less effective?

Even though I was taking the pill, I still ended up pregnant five times. That’s why I’ve decided to keep this baby. But what worries me now is figuring out who the father is. I honestly don’t know. I have four serious boyfriends, and I also meet with four other men occasionally for paid sex. I’ve been so confused and overwhelmed, I don’t know how to face this or who to turn to.

I’ve also encountered other men in the last three months, aside my boyfriends and the other guys. I’m really bothered for myself and this child right now. I need to choose a good father to the baby, I don’t know what the future holds. I have already told two of them and one said I should terminate it, but the other one gave me blue ticks.

There are eight more men to tell, hoping one accepts it but what if that’s not who I really want to father my child? What if he’s not responsible enough to cater for us? I’m confused and I don’t know what to do.

I wasn’t raised like this and I pray my parents will not be disappointed seeing me like this. I’m living like this because I have no job and I needed to survive as an orphan. Some of the men I had an encounter with are really wealthy but I don’t even know who to actually pin the baby on.

How would I convince them to accept us? What should I do now? I need help!

FG/EB

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