Dear GhanaWeb,

My elder brother and his wife married five years ago, and they have two children together.

I completed university last year and was about to begin my national service. Since my service post wasn’t far from my brother’s house, he invited me to move in with them.

My sister-in-law was incredibly supportive, always making sure I was well-fed. Sometimes, after I got back from work, she would offer to give me a massage, knowing how hard I worked. However, I always politely declined her offer.

After completing my national service, I planned to move out and rent my own apartment. However, my brother disagreed with my decision. He told me that he enjoyed having me around and that his home felt livelier with me there.

Instead of letting me move out, he suggested I use the money I had saved for rent to invest in a profitable business. He even gave me additional funds to help with the investment, saying that if I could make a profit, he would allow me to rent my own place.

Fast forward, my brother’s wife started showing signs that she was interested in me. At first, I thought it was normal, but now it’s no longer funny.

She would enter my room without knocking, and I couldn’t help but wonder what she was hoping to find.

She will enter my room while I am asleep and start rubbing her hands around my body till I wake up.

Despite telling her to stop, she continued her behaviour whenever we were alone.

I haven't engaged with her, but she has been the one initiating everything. She started making suggestive comments, and her actions escalated to more questionable behaviours.

There was even an incident where she almost got caught by my aunt while acting inappropriately.

Just recently, she came into my room again, and I had to quickly find an excuse to leave.

She tried to provoke me, believing I wouldn’t tell my brother. When I threatened to inform him, she mocked me and doubted I would follow through. I’m at a loss for how to handle this situation. My brother loves and trusts her so much that I fear he might not believe me. I worry that if I don’t find a way to stop her, this could eventually come to light in a way that could cause irreparable damage. I want to protect the integrity of their marriage, but I’m running out of options.

How can I make her stop this behaviour without jeopardizing my brother’s marriage? My brother has always been there for me, and I want to honour him and remain loyal. I’ve considered talking to a trusted family member about this, hoping they could offer advice or intervene on my behalf. But I’m concerned about the fallout, and the possibility that the situation could be mishandled, making things worse.

I’m caught between wanting to keep the peace and needing to stop this behaviour for my well-being and my brother’s sake. In the meantime, I’ve been trying to avoid being alone with her as much as possible, but that’s not a sustainable solution.

I’m worried about how long I can keep this up and what might happen if she doesn’t stop. Now I need a strategy to address this situation effectively while minimizing harm to everyone involved.


FG/EB

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