Dear GhanaWeb,

My girlfriend and I had planned to get married this December and I informed everyone about it.

However, my pastor called for a meeting between him, my girlfriend, my mum, and me.

During the meeting, my mum expressed her concern, saying that she had always wished I would complete my master's degree before getting married, and she still hoped that I would at least begin the process, such as getting admission, before tying the knot.

Her main concern was that if I got married now and faced financial difficulties, I might end up relying on her for support, which she didn't want.

Despite this, my mum acknowledged that I am old enough to make my own decisions, so she gave her blessing for me to proceed with my plans. However, I could clearly see the pain in her eyes.

My pastor then spoke with my fiancée, asking her to be patient and allow me to get admitted to a master's program before we go ahead with the marriage.

He proposed that we delay the wedding until March or April next year.

At the meeting, my fiancée expressed that this was not what we had originally planned. She explained that she had other plans for next year, such as applying for schools abroad, and requested support from my family to go ahead with the marriage this December.

After the discussion, we agreed to postpone the wedding until next year. However, my fiancée is upset.

She feels that I didn’t stand firm on our original plan and that I’m not acting like a man. She also believes my mother doesn’t like her and feels controlled by the situation.

In fact, she said she would not marry me if the wedding doesn't happen this December.

So, my question is, do you think I was wrong or right for considering my mum and pastor’s advice?

FG/EB

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