Dear GhanaWeb,

I’m in a dilemma about my marriage. Every day feels like hell and I don’t know what to do. I need to start from the beginning so you can understand.

I met my wife back in 2015, she was beautiful, brilliant and hardworking. She was everything I wanted and I quickly knew she was the one for me.

"But there was one thing: she said she didn’t want to have sex before marriage. Her reason was that her past relationship had ended badly, and she couldn’t bring herself to be intimate with another man before tying the knot."

I understood and I agreed.

In 2019, we finally got married, but when it came time to consummate the marriage, it turned into a quick session. She cried throughout, and I couldn't even enjoy it."

Ever since then, whenever I try to touch her, she flinches, she always gives excuses and whenever I bring the topic up, she either gets angry or starts crying.

This has been on for more than five years now. I have managed to remain faithful and I haven't cheated or looked at anyone since I got married, but it’s getting harder and harder.

Whenever I get the urge, I either masturbate or find something to keep myself busy. But I am slowly losing it.

The strange thing is, she is now friends with her ex, they work close to each other and they even travel together for business trips.

But she assures me nothing is going on between them and I believe her.

I love my wife and I want to remain faithful to her. But I do not know what what to do.

How do I make her get intimate with me? Please help me.