So many women walk around thinking of themselves as defeated, a failure, unworthy and unlovable. Women sometimes see themselves that way because of past hurts or abuse, because something they had hoped for just did not work out the way they had planned, or because they feel less than others around them.

The problem is once you see yourself that way, you will speak of yourself that way and what that does is condemns you to a life of negativity. It is a cycle that YOU perpetuate.

Here is what I mean. Whenever we activate negative thoughts and words, we create a pigeonhole that keeps us trapped in that negative spiral. Let us examine the term pigeonhole. The Merriam-Webster Dictionary defines the verb pigeonhole as “to assign to a particular category, typically an overly restrictive one” or “to lay aside”.

The Urban Dictionary defines it as “to put something into a drawer/box and forget about it for a long term.” In simpler terms, your negative thoughts and words restrict you, lay you aside so that opportunities consistently pass you by, and trap you in a box.

The truth is negative thinking is destructive. It drains your energy and stops you from moving towards and engaging in positive activities. It leaves you feeling badly, and locks you into believing that you do not deserve more or better.

The same is true of negative words. Proverbs 18:21 says “the tongue has the power of life and death.”(NIV) The Message Bible puts it this way…”Words kill, words give life; they’re either poison or fruit—you choose.”

When we say harmful words and/or belittle children, they cry and cower. Very few see it as a call to toughen up and be better than whatever you professed to them. It is the same with our brains and bodies. When we say harmful words etc….our brains and bodies cry and cower…rather than shine and be/become all that God has lovingly ordained for us.

So instead of negative thoughts and words, try positive thoughts and utterances. Replace negative thoughts and words with what God says.

Fact is, prosperous women think and speak positively. They think and say only what God says. Why? Because His Word is light (Psalm 119:105) and will lead you through all darkness. It is alive and active (Hebrews 4:12a) and will give you life and keep you going even when you feel low. It is a weapon (Hebrews 4:12b; Ephesians 4:17) and will cause you to bounce forward regardless of the depth of your struggle.

Moreover the Word of God says wonderful things about us as children of God. These very words give life and are the words we should choose to believe. For example, one of my favorite verses is 1 Peter 2:9. Here the Apostle Peter is explaining what God says about His people. He was sharing with them how they differ from the rest of the world. He said “But you are a chosen people, a royal priesthood…God’s special possession” (1 Peter 2:9). “Chosen people” means God chose you. Not the other way around. And He chose you for great and lovely things. In fact, Jeremiah 29:11 says “For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”

1 Peter 2:9 also says you are God’s special possession. According to the Merriam-Webster Dictionary, the word special means “being in some way superior, held in particular esteem, readily distinguishable from others of the same category, designed for a particular purpose or occasion.” God says this about YOU!

As God’s possession He has the responsibility to take care of you. He is your source for all things. In other words, He’s not just money or a shoulder to cry on when things get super rough. You can speak to Him daily and He will reply. In His reply, He will show love, compassion and unmerited favour (grace). Of a truth, like all fathers, He will also discipline but that discipline if you heed makes you stronger and better off for it.

There is more…. The Bible is replete with Scriptures of affirmation that is, affirming how God sees you and what He says about you. The thing to do is to personalise the Scriptures and then speak them aloud over your life daily, especially in the morning before you take on the day. Below are just a few of the affirmations found in the Bible: