What most women want is a lasting loving relationship. And they want toe-curling, fabulous, heart-to-heart connection sex. They want to be respected and cherished by the men they date. And while they might be attracted to a sexy man on a first date, they don’t have sex before they’re in an exclusive, monogamous relationship. Because they don’t want to be objectified or viewed as just a plaything, soon to be tossed out for the next shiny woman who comes along.

The women who have slept with men in that spontaneous heat of passion were often forgotten the next day.

These women go from bliss to devastation in a matter of hours. That awful feeling of being used, questioning their self-worth—it’s not a fun place to be.

Sure, there are exceptions. There are women who slept with a man on first date, and they ended up marrying that hottie. There are some women who can have sex on a first or second date, and they’re okay.

That’s because they’re not emotionally invested in having a relationship at this time in their life. They know what they want, and they are okay if it doesn’t lead to more emotional intimacy.