Dear GhanaWeb,

I’m a 31-year-old gentleman, and I’ve been married for three years now. My problem is that my wife does not, in anyway, like sex. I’m married to a very wonderful lady who I can literally give my life in place for. She is everything a man can imagine or dream of having.

She is very intelligent and works with a prestigious company. As young as I am, I’m also doing so well for myself. We both have our own cars and a well-furnished apartment. On countless occasions, when I have tried addressing this issue of sex, I’m either victimised or blamed for something unrelated to the issue.

She one day took me out for a treat just to tell me how bad she felt about our sex life and asked me to be patient with her. I appreciated her and said okay. I’m still patient, but I’m suffering as a man. We have sex at most once a month. Even with that, unless I show some kind of attitude.

She doesn’t like us fighting, so she will just allow me to do what I want to do, but she will rather be lying there without getting involved with whatever is going on. I have done everything within my power and anything you can think of to make her sexually active, but to no avail. Ironically, I would rather counsel people on issues like this, but here I am, in the same situation.

I have gotten to a point where I don’t even find her attractive anymore because I feel like I’m staying with a fellow brother, and she seems to be okay with that. While I’m yearning to have sex with her, she will just be on her phone.

Mind you, I’ve known her for years; we dated for three years, and I was the one who broke her virginity. Her first excuse was that we started having sex before marriage. It is against her religion, but she only allowed me to have sex with her, so I won’t leave her. It gets worse because she doesn't even get wet enough like a woman who is about to have sex with her man should.

The excuses are too much for me to handle and I can’t also use this as an excuse to cheat on her. I really love my wife, and I don’t want to lose her. What am I supposed to do?