In this interview with our correspondents, some couples air their views on the sharing of information considered private to their families on social media

Itodo John

I’ll let her know it’s dangerous

The most important thing in life is to know your partner and her weaknesses. When it comes to social media, it is not everything that one should post. This is when the knowledge of the weaknesses of my partner will come in.

The first thing I have to do is to see her as my sister; this will enable me to tolerate her because no matter what she does to me, I will still have to forgive her.

To avoid posting on social media, I will let her know the implications of her actions. I will let her realise that posting sensitive family information on social media will endanger the lives of members of the family.

You can easily be harmed because the world already knows your weaknesses and how they will penetrate since they have the information of what is happening in the family. In the first place, social media should be a place for mature people where you can share your problems and get a solution but now it is being abused.

Foye Ojo-Mark

Private information mustn’t go public

In a situation where my spouse posts private information on social media, I will make him understand that social media is a public place and once it is on the Internet, it is out of your control and potentially can be used against you in future. I will also let him know other effects of social media, especially the psychological aspect where our children are involved.

I will make him see the reasons why such information should not go public. Whatever is private must stay private because once it is out there, there is nothing private about it again. Information spreads like wild fire

Abdulhameed Adesegun

I don’t support it, I’ll caution my wife

I do not support the idea of my wife posting sensitive information about our family on social media. Some families always upload things about themselves on social media and they feel good about it, but my wife cannot try that because I do not support it.

Even celebrities, these days, keep their lives private from social media perhaps because they have realised the harm. Some persons will even go as far as commenting positively, liking the posts and even reacting, but you don’t know their real intention.

And there are times when God is doing some good things in your life that you have to make a noise about. It is not everybody that will celebrate you. I will caution her to stop it.

Roseline Adesuyi

We’re supposed to live confidential life

If my spouse always posts sensitive family information on social media, I will sit him down as a Christian with humility and make him see the hazards in doing so. Social media never forgets and the family is supposed to live a confidential life. Remember a lot can be done in future by anyone with such information. One needs to be very careful. He may be the type that is indecisive. We have different cultures, values and background; he might not see it as anything dangerous. Therefore, I will let him know how hazardous posting such sensitive family issues on social media is. In family, there must be privacy.

Chukwujekwu Okwor

I’ll let her know problems are not there

Well, social media obviously has become an avenue for people to express their feelings and all that but some people tend to misuse it. If my spouse always posts sensitive family information on social media, the first thing I will do is to come to an understanding with her. If the posts do not go down well with me, I will make her see reasons why she should not post such.

I must be able to understand how these issues affect my wife so I can know how to deal with it. There are some things she will post on social media that will later become security threat to me. Sometimes, it is not always right to even post pictures of one’s children on social media, but many people don’t know because they think it is fun. The truth is that even the public doesn’t provide solutions to the problems you take to the social media.

I will make her know that. What most people do is to read your posts and move on. You may get a few friends that will sympathise with you and share their views about the issues. Issues are not solved on social media; so, I will make her see reasons why she should stop putting up sensitive information on social media.

Tomisin Ayoola

It’s childish to do so

That sounds immature. A spouse who posts confidential family issues on social media is not mature at all. At first, I will ignore it but if it continues, I will have to caution him and ask for an explanation. Family matters are meant to be confidential, so why taking it public? It only shows a level of childishness. I believe only a child would do such a thing. But I am sure my spouse can’t do such; he is not even a social media person.

Ajeje Oluwatobi

I will educate my wife on its dangers

The best thing to do is to educate my wife on the danger associated with what she is doing. We will come to a compromise. I will state my own and I will expect her to also state hers. We will then come to an agreement. We have a lot of cyber scams all around. I will let her to also know that. So, I believe that there is nothing I can do other than to educate my wife because she may not know the danger attached to what she is doing. To her, it may just be an ordinary post for innocent reasons but it might just be what someone somewhere is waiting for to use to carry out a wicked act. So, we should guide against such at all times.

Bosede Onwuma

I’ll unfriend him on social media

If my spouse does anything of such, I will unfriend him. Since both of us are friends on social media, whatever is on his timeline would be tagged to mine. Well, I will first advise him on the risk of posting such sensitive issues on social media and if he persists, I will unfriend him so we won’t both be linked together. Social media has a way of linking you to some matters and I wouldn’t love to be a victim of social media vices. I will surely unfriend him if I notice he refuses to take to corrections.

Stephen Akande

She has to stop it

In my own view, I don’t want any of my family pictures or sensitive posts related to my family on social media. So, I will have to explain to my wife and tell her not to post any information or picture about the family online. We all have individual differences but as for me, I won’t tolerate posting family issues on social media. I will handle it in a way that will not lead to a fight. I will let her know that I don’t want it and she has to stop.

Oluwakemi Oyesile

I’ll advise him to use pseudo names

Why will he do that? That wouldn’t be nice at all. Some issues are not supposed to go public at all and issues that have to do with the family are meant to be very private. If such happens, I will tell him not to do it again and if he doesn’t change, I will plead with him to use fictitious names on different occasions.

It would be okay if he keeps changing names because we don’t know who might use what you post on social media against you. There is nothing social media cannot do and everyone is looking for a means to make money. My family affair is private to me and I don’t want to become anyone’s source of income especially on social media.