Many Ghanaian treat women with respect but there are also many who not.

Observe these behaviours at functions. Some look after their own welfare before considering her wife let alone their children.

Some Ghanaian men have not been loved as children and therefore have not acquired the emotional nourishment they could perhaps have had from their parents.

When one grows up in an environment with no role models it becomes difficult to expect that child to grow up to be a responsible citizen even if they strike gold along their life’s journey.

Women who marry such men thinking he has the money, looks and well I want him. Be ware as such men could be jealous, over possessive, and might not give you the love you crave to go with the money.

We need to look for the wider aspects of life otherwise this person is filthy rich.

Ladies and also men look beyond the horizon and see where the sky is actually blue or there are cloud hovering around it. Check the qualities that make a good home, for example, would this man I want to marry like DIY, or gardening, or community activities.

Are this person warm, a people person and not just churchgoers to tick the box of churchgoers?

See whether that family is dysfunctional and observe the dynamic of that family for a while. Do your own research and just not listen to the man or lady you have in mind.

Commit your want into prayers too because God will reveal this you in dreams and others.

Test your men or woman with the simple things in life rather than showering big presents.

Time will tell if this is indeed a true love in the offering.

In Ghana conflict resolution is never taught in schools and many of us lack this qualities.

Instead we try to belittle people by bullying them to show our seniority or knowledge when actually it is emotional intelligence which is needed to solve a particular issue.

This is what those of us in the Diaspora have learnt from our host countries. It is better to listen more and talk less in order to get the most out from people. On the hand, in Ghana we tend to talk more but listen less. This often result into an argumentative debate.

Mutual respect for each other is a powerful tool for business and the development of any community. Please do not take it for granted.

I could be wrong and biased as a woman; however the facts are many Africa men thinks they own their wives welfare and suppress their educational and emotional development.

Some lie between their teeth engaged in all sorts of evil doings, and even some maltreat their wives regardless their educational background, family ties and economic strength. Although a majority try to remain faithful to their wives and support them, there are also many that do not even make that grade of a good husband.

Do you blame Africa men when their parents have mothered them and treated them like mini gods?

Ladies watch out when a man tells you we had lots of maidservants in the house so I didn’t have to do anything. It is not a blessing for you or is it? It simply means a man from such home do not have a clue of family life and if you marry him it will be sheer torture for you.

It is better marrying the slave than marrying the master or the boss with so many qualifications but no substance really. Do not laugh ladies test it out and you will be that servant of that home.

This group of men simply does not have what it takes to be good husbands or make a home.

Think beyond what you see on the plate, think of you prepared your man ready for marriage and check that background.