She called me one day to tell me that anytime she sees me, she wonders whether I don’t know the true colours of men. She said I am young so I don’t know how wicked men are. When she sees me going up and down, she laughs…

I have a problem with generalizations, I am not married to your husband I am married to my husband. I decided to ignore her uncalled for tips about men. I told myself that when you see someone who is happy in his or her marriage, you know it.

Matthew 25:35-40, Jesus said, “For I was hungry, and you fed me…And the king will say when you did it for one of the least…you did it for me”. How many of you are living with Jesus in your houses and you are starving them, ignoring them, and making other people happy rather than giving all your attention to where it truly belongs. Putting on caring attitudes outside and ignoring people in your homes…

Happiness comes with sacrifices, and when you decide to try and make your spouse happy, you create a happy environment and it makes everyone else happy, and you become happy too. No two marriages are the same, do not allow anyone to shift your focus from the things you are doing in your marriage that are working.

If I had listened to ‘mama tips’ and decided to stop being nice, going the extra mile for my husband, we wouldn’t have enjoyed the few years God gave us in the marriage. It would have been full of strife, creating hell and being burnt by the fire.

I made a decision to give my all because I wanted a ‘whole’ husband in return. You cannot give what you don’t have and you sow what you reap. The fact that some people do not always reap what they sow in their marriages should not deter you from doing what you have to do. The fact that some people are not happy in their marriages does not mean that every marriage is sour. You decided to marry so work your way to enjoy it.

If you decide to make your spouse’s life miserable, it’s up to you and since we don’t know when death will call, it is better to choose happiness, love, dedication, devotion and all goodness, kindness, etc. You yourself deserve to live in a happy environment so do it for yourself. Marriage is for serious people if you are not ready to be serious and be responsible, sit your somewhere.

Today, my husband is no more, but ‘mama tips’ husband is alive and she has time to correct her mistakes and vice versa. Unless you can read into the future and know how long you and your spouse will live, just focus on building, supporting and loving each other and there will be little or no regrets when the unfortunate happens. Feel free and go the extra mile, it’s good for your health.

I don’t have a problem with serving people because I know how to serve myself, I love food and I love to cook and I love eating my own food so I don’t have a problem with cooking for my family at all. Don’t think for someone because the person may love doing a certain task whereas that same task is such a burden for you. Imagine Judas Iscariot complaining about the alabaster box when the woman didn’t have a problem with what she was doing. If you won’t go all out, don’t complain and look down on someone who is doing it.

I like the verse in the bible that says we should do everything like we are doing unto God. I feel that it is a good guideline for living well and uprightly in this life.

When you give your all, you know what you deserve, you know what you want in return and you don’t just accept anything. If you don’t give your all, you accept just anything.

Be Happy…